Hey there Angels
So thanks for all the comments and emails that you guys sent my way about this. It really gave me some food for thought. I gotta say, some of you Angels make us look so tame with your exploits from back in the day!
One of the things I was learning as I was reading this was that maybe we should do a segment on the blog similar to Penthouse Letters or whatever where people can email in and we will publish what they did. Anonymously of course. As long as its hot. I don’t know. What do you guys think? I might talk to Alexis about that.
Anyways, so I also talked to Alexis about the current dilemma with Jock and Community and his brother. And you know Alexis. She was like okay you should just do all three of them and have Joyce join in as well and I just rolled my eyes because what else was I expecting?
So when Alexis finally calmed down, I sat down and we may have had a breakthrough.
I decided that if Joyce is okay with it then I want to get dirty with Jock. But it feels so wrong because he’s so much younger than me – which also makes it so much more exciting. But I need to set some ground rules. So here they are.
- I am not his girlfriend. We’re not in any relationship. He has to be okay that I go suck like 20 dicks right after he leaves because he doesn’t have any claim over me.
- Its just sex. Nothing more. I have crazy horniness taking me over and I’m going to use him like an animal looking to scratch an itch.
- I may cut off all contact with him at any point
- I will actively still be looking for Mr. Right
- He is not Mr. Right
- I am happy spending time with him outside of sex as long as he doesn’t develop feelings
- HE needs to be available for sex whenever I want
- I do not need to be available for sex whenever he wants. Whether we have sex is entirely my decision.
Ok so after I came up with these rules Alexis just looked at me weird and she was like asking me the following:
“How much time did you spend with him?”
And I told her I met him and accidentally brushed him as I walked away from the fridge. And that he had come and asked me to go swimming.
So Alexis raises an eye as she looks at me.
“And you don’t think if before you guys hang out if you put all those demands on him he’s not going to think you’re crazy?”
So I mean I know I want all these things. But when should I bring it up? I’m good at the sex part but the relationship part is tricky. Help me Angels!
Well, not to be a prude, but I have a 20 yr old daughter and a 23 year old son, and what you are saying is a mom’s worst nightmare. That said…understand a 19 year old males mind…..IF he agrees to this he WILL tell every living soul how he scored big with a Cougar…YES to him you are a Cougar. He may even be a virgin still, boys are all bravado, so you wont know till his pants are around his ankles. I really think this is a BAD idea. He is mentally still a kid.
Maureen I agree with you. With two 20 something sons I just can’t wrap my head around this being a good idea.
This is your life. Do what feels right for you.
Find an adult – leave the kids alone !!
If you are that interested, get Joyce and hubby to take you out to their club where you can get all your itches scratched in a safe adult environment where everyone else knows and obeys the established rules…
Hmmm…..I’m a mom and I love sex “But” it’s the moral compass that keeps the balance
Emotionally he is just out of high school (so a kid) and is probably horny as hell he will definitely be attach to you no doubt about. Personally I think it’s to close to home for comfort
That said it’s all up to you . Good Luck!
The problem with a list of rules is that you’re not factoring in human emotion, and a kid that age doesn’t know what the fuck he’s feeling from one minute to the next, plus guys are so much less mature AND he’s much younger so you might just acquire a stalker. We can all give our opinions, but it’s you who is actually living this, so it’s ultimately up to you. Good luck!
Do whatever you think is best for you, but being in my mid 50’s, I try not to go out with anyone under 30. Even though you want to have fun, a guy under that age hasn’t reached a maturity level that they understand that sex is just sex without forming some type of emotional attachment.
I agree, this is really not a good idea.
I also would like to see a “Penthouse Letters” type column.
I gotta agree with Maureen they are Giant Gossips. When I was livin’ in La-Vita Loca Land aka crushin’ on a high school senior boy. He was tellin’ his friends how he was gonna “Tap that” meaning Me. That was it. The Bubble popped. And I came out of my Haze. And am soo happy it was just a crush. And didn’t go any further. I’m even a little embarrassed by the whole thing. . that I let it happened.
The Forum Letters sounds like a winner!!
Eh, I probably am in the minority here but I don’t really think this list of rules is a good idea. It kinda doesn’t seem fair he has to available to you but you don’t have to be to him. If you want to enter into some type of flirty friends with benefits arrangement, then you really both should be equals in it. Doesn’t matter if he’s younger. And while banging a young stud sounds hot in theory it rarely lives up to the fantasy of it. Maybe spend some actual friend time with him first and get to know him a bit. See if you’re both on the same page, then move on with a decision from there. Good luck!
I agree with all. Not fair he is available at your beck and call but not vice versa? Also,u state this is not a relationship then at the end u say good at sex part but relash… kids his age do develop feelings. I think this is a bad idea and u r caught up in your books. Stick to at least your age group.Or as someone said,go to the club.