It’s a no contest divorce and it takes three weeks roughly to process.
I’d like to say that I’m sad for this state of affairs but honestly, Angels, I’m not.
I’ll tell you why.
The last couple months, ever since the store launched have been the most exciting times in my life. This is exactly what Alexis and I had signed up to do. I wanted to do direct selling all the way back in the early parts of last year.
Sure, writing and authoring on Amazon was exciting and great. But we have a tangible store at this point in time. We manage the entire process from one end to another. It’s deeply fulfilling.
Alexis listens to my ideas. Often she just blows up and wants to do things immediately but she listens to them. Mr. Lana Angel never wanted me to do anything that took away from him. I mean he wanted to move away from the city and go to the mountains (to a tiny town) as a way to get me away from all that. And he wanted me to rely on his income but it wasn’t enough.
He was controlling.
He didn’t care about my desires. And my passion to write.
I’d like to say I’m a little bit disappointed, but this is an amicable split. We’ll handle everything together.
I just wonder what it says about us that in order for the store to have found light, my marriage has dissolved and Alexis and WineBar are broken. I mean even if you look at our authors, Natalie has an absent husband. Daphne has one night stands. Paige is single. Only Liz – has two boyfriends.
I resolve in 2019 we need to repair our personal lives.
I still have one week to push No and not agree to the divorce. I don’t know.
I’d like to say I’m conflicted but it seems clear. Ever since Paris where I came to Alexis with an idea it’s been pretty amazing.
Am I ready to be a single girl again?
I mean there have been nights where my sexy dresses haven’t gotten much use and Alexis has worn them. She had one ripped so she got me another one (I didn’t really care for it much anyways).
Am I ready to go out there again?
And how is a contemporary romance store have a founder that’s getting a divorce? So much for HEA right?
i don’t know if I sound crazy here Angels.
I just wanted to share because I haven’t been able to in a while.
It feels good to post here. And in DLA. I look at all of the readers as an extended family. One I can’t live without.
Mr. Lana Angel never felt like that. He never really accepted that I wanted to write steamy contemporary romance. He thought it was a phase. Something I’d grow over. But he was so wrong.
This is my life. This is what I want. This is what I do.
He wants to step away from it, I think I feel okay about it.
It’s Official. Mr. Lana Angel and I Have Applied For A Divorce
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Lana, I don’t believe you have anything to be sorry about. You can’t let yourself be completely controlled by another person and be totally dependent on them because tomorrow is never promised and you need to be able to take care of yourself in that instance. I know we Angels, Alexis, Daphne, Natalie, Paige and Liz will be here for you. As for getting back out there I really admire you for holding true to your vows until the divorce is final, that is something that will always show you believed in your vows even if the marriage dissolved. It isn’t a failure, it’s just that somehow you both found that you were on different paths and wanted different things in life, no shame in that. You are a good person and a great author so keep your chin up, you tried and that’s all any of us can do <3 Love and hugs.
Beautifully spoken truth. Thanks Ramona for saying something g I think many will be touched by.
Felt from the heart and you are welcome Nancy 🙂 Have a great one.
If you don’t feel sad about it, then you know in your heart it’s the right thing to do. Time to start thinking of you and making sure your life is filled with love, health & happiness.
HEA comes in many forms.
Concentrate on HRN Happy Right Now and the great work you are all doing on the store and your writing.
You need a Mr. Right-now who can give you what you need at this moment. The rest will come. Just keep your heart open.
Im sorry but I cant say its a loss. Ive learned that people who are only suppose to be in your life only a season sometimes come across as people who are suppose to be a lifetime. Only You will know which one he is. Keeping write and living your life God will take care of the rest.
I’m sorry it ended as you never really want to see that but in the same breath it sounds like it was for the best! He didn’t want you to grow, he wanted you to himself.
I’m in agreement with the angel above who says it’s admirable to wait until the divorce is final before looking elsewhere. BUT as soon as it’s final I think you Alexis and any other Angel in town need to go out and party. Whatever comes of it, so be it. I think you need to take a page out of Alexis’s book, find a good man and have a good time!!
Keep your head up Lana we love you here and so glad you kept writing!!
You will get your HEA just not until you find your real prince. You deserve the real thing. Only you will know when the right time is to start looking for him. You don’t have to start your search the minute the papers are signed. You can wait two minutes, two weeks or two months. Just don’t settle for anything less than a man who encourages, supports and lives your dreams with you.
Lana, you have nothing to be sorry about. You gave it your best and if Mr. Lana Angel could not handle you success in writing, maybe it is better this way. I understand about hoping to be married until death do you part, but life happens in strange ways. If you could not find happiness with Mr. Lana Angel, find your happiness where you can. Your mental and physical health are very important. Take care of your self.
My marriage was dying and I didn’t want to accept it, so we were in limbo for two years. I begged my ex to get help (he was an alcoholic and drug addict, which ultimately led to his death) but we both knew it was time to let go. Your partner should always support you in whatever you feel most passionate about, and he was very selfish and made it all about him. You don’t want to live that way, plus you will eventually resent him for holding you down. Embrace single life and enjoy your freedom. I wish you happiness and great success in whatever you do. :0)
Hi Lana, I am sorry that your marriage did not work out. It has been a while since you first told us about moving in with Alexis. It does appear that you have given this much thought (more than Mr. Lana Angel). Be happy in the choice that was made and look to the future and make it the best that you possibly can. I sure hope the individual that you meet and decide to make that HEA with is not one who tries to control but one who wants you to be happy with your writing and wants you to continue with what makes you happy.
Lana, don’t be to hasty to “get back out there”. Take some time for yourself. You loved this man enough to marry him, Now this marriage is over. Take time to mourn this loss. Your heart will tell you when it’s time to try again. Know that your angels are here for you! Sending you lots of hugs.
Don’t worry about the past.
The past is history
And the present is
A mystery!
Stay strong and you will be stronger. Listen to Alexis and all the Angels but follow your heart.
Lana you need to be who you are.
if divorce gives you that, then that is what you do.
as for getting back out there, when you are ready it will happen. no need to push, just become you and be happy. the rest will follow.
Lana, your feelings toward your upcoming divorce are quite telling. It’s obvious your relationship with MLA was not fulfilling. You tried to do what you needed and he tried to stifle your creativity. That just doesn’t seem like someone you should spend the rest of your life with. Go out there and have some fun. When you’re ready the right man will come.
It’s sad that ait had to end in a divorce,but If he wasn’t so controlloing(marriage is about equality)& obviously the part ‘for better or worse,in sickness and health does not apply to Mr. Lana. Being inconsiderate and selfish/slef cemtered is NO piconic for the people around you. All it’s gonna do is deive others asay from you(now Mr. Lana is alone!)
Lana, hold your head high, girl! It is obvious that you have given this divorce a lot of thought and consideration to all points of view. This is not a rush decision and yeah, sometimes shit happens and we have to deal with it. I agree with other Angels comments in that a divorce is not a failure, it is a stepping stone in your life story. If we are lucky, we get to grace this earth for 100 years which is not a long time and we have to live each day as though it is our last, doing so will lead to a happy and fulfilling life. You will meet your HEA man some day and if not, enjoy trying out a few along the way. 🙂
Lana, I’m sorry about your upcoming divorce, but it seems like unfortunately its the best thing for you as a writer and especially a woman. Who wants to be that dependent on a man. I was with my first husband and let me tell you it was miserable. I had to ask for every penny and account for it. Never again my friend. I’m re-married and treated as an equal as we all should be….so there is light at the end of the tunnel when you least expect it. Go out with Alexis, have one night stands and when the time is right you’ll meet the right guy for you.
I hope your heart and spirit heals quickly and completely Lana. The lack of tears , doubts, or any remorse about decisions you’ve made tells me this path was right from the start. Blessings.
Well, I’m not sure if I should say I’m sorry, because you have come to realize what’s best for you, and it doesn’t include a manipulator, however much love there may have been at some point in your relationship.
Keep in mind that the social convention of one guy and one gal, forever and onwards, is not necessarily ideal for everybody. (Just look around you!) there is absolutely no reason why a woman (or a man, either) can’t live happily without having to tie themselves to another person. True, it’s fun, thrilling,… comfortable… But certainly not necessary for your personal happiness or fulfillment.
Keep the good memories, make some more great ones, and be yourself. There’s only one of you, and that makes you very precious. Don’t waste that treasure on sorrow or what-ifs. ❤️
Everything happens for a reason. We don’t always get to know the “why” something happened, but I think in your case between your marriage and what Amazon did to you ladies it gave you the strength to stand on your own. You built this store and continue to do what you love. Stand tall and be proud of what you have accomplished from the ashes of the previous year. *hugs* to all of you.
A lot of great and caring comments from people who truly care. HEA has a different and personal definition for each of us and it does change. For right now, your HEA, Lana, is to live for YOU and no one else. If that means writing, then darn it, write your heart out. If that means partying with Alexis, then darn it, party on, dudette!
I have been following both you Lana and Alexis for several years now. I remember how sad you both were when you decided to go separate ways. We now understand that you were trying to make your husband happy. You were trying to make him understand the happiness you get from writing by planning these rendezvous with an assortment of toys and lingerie (you go girl-by the way). He liked it for the most part, but even back then his heart wasn’t really in it. You have been feeling him pulling a way for a while. He didn’t care much for Alexis because she is a strong woman. You have found your voice and your heart will get stronger everyday. He will probably end up being sad and bitter for many years. Lana, what you and Alexis have started here with the help of the other authors is monumental !! You all are PROUD and LOUD and LOVED !! You each will find that special someone who is proud to walk beside you, not in front of you !!!
Lana, I am sorry to hear about your impending divorce. Though I am happy to hear you are getting out of a controlling and (in the future) possibly dangerous relationship. No one should be told that they can’t do something they love. Something that brings others such joy. Mr. Lana Angel was a very selfish man, who thought only of himself. It wasn’t a true partnership. This wasn’t your true HEA, that story has yet to be written. I say, don’t push NO, continue to take your life, in your own hands. I wish you all the best!
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” – Helen Keller
You are walking through your new open door now, and the potential for so much is unlimited – HEA doesn’t mean “The End”. Here’s to your happy future!!
I’m sorry the marriage didn’t work out for the two of you. I only wish you the best for your future and that you continue your journey as you find your inner strength. Much love and warm wishes.
Just keep your self worth, square your shoulders and move forward!!
Life is a journey and not a destination. Along a journey many roads can be taken, some take us to amazing sights and experiences and others take us to a dead end; but most of these are unplanned, unexpected and teach us something (okay, enough with the driving metaphor). Therefore, nothing is a failure, nothing is an indication of who we are but merely assists in making up the whole picture. He could have shared in this part of your life and helped you as opposed to fighting against it and acting like he was losing something as opposed to gaining (did he not think that your stories needed researching and he would be part of that …. two strangers meet in a bar and start chatting: “Hey, I have a room if you’re interested ….. – I think you get my drift!). When you are ready, you will meet somebody who wants to share your life and add to it, and vice versa until then enjoy being you and the road you just happen to be on now.
I’m sorry your marriage to MLA is ending but you now have YOUR future to look forward to. Write what you WANT to. PARTY with Alexis if you want to but wait awhile if you need to. Just ENJOY being you!! We all love you.
So sorry to hear about your divorce to Mr. Lana Angel but it wasn’t meant to be. You honestly sound much happier doing what your doing with Alexis and the other Angels life is too short you need to live your dreams. You’ll know when your ready to get back out there you can live vicariously through Alexis she is a hoot I can see why you to are meant to be friends two peas in a pod you are. Chin up things will all work out for you and you have so much support in you corner. Hugs Diane 😙😙
While I am sorry it has come to this for you. Off with the Old on with the new … is what I say. Take your time and adjust – on your terms. When I went back to being single at 30 I tried to figure out what I wanted as I knew what I did not, at that point. I have been happily married for almost 20 years and have 2 wonderful kids. Life goes on, its best to figure out what direction you want take. The specifics will work their way out. GOOD LUCK and make sure you have a great lawyer,
Hugs as you go thru this difficult journey. Unfortunately we don’t have the ability to change spmeone else’s view, as much as we would like to at times. Being a strong, independent woman is often frightening and threatening to men, although most will say they respect that, not the attribute they want in their own partner. Makes it difficult for those of us who have dreams and achieve success. A partner should be just that..share in your excitement, support when you need it, encouragement, celebrate with you, not in spite of your dreams. I have heard there are some men out there like that, but must admit i have rarely seen one. You will be great, trust your instincts, take a risk, and blossom into all you can be. I certainly never imagined i would be where i am, and can thank my ex for the push the divorce gave me (but don’t tell him!). Far exceeded my career goals, and still going strong. Let your success be his vinegar, he has to drink it. To your happiness and success!
Lana as you can see by the many posts that we are here for you. I understand that divorce is never an easy option. I’m sorry yours didn’t work out. I think even in good marriages there are times when you go thru rough times and I’ve considered divorce during those times but we made it thru. Enough of me, the fact that you aren’t upset says that you do need to move on. You can’t be with someone who wants to control ever aspect of your life. You love to write and the fact that he wanted you to grow away from it says more about him. When you love someone you support them in what they are doing. You sound like you are finally happy with you and once that happens Love will find its way. Even if you stay single don’t ever settle for someone who doesn’t support your dreams.
Oh my god Lana, I’m so very sorry for what your currently going through in your personal life but unfortunately if your ex-husband was controlling and completely misunderstanding that you thoroughly get enjoyment out of writing and feel the need to do so then it’s just for the very best. Personally, I firmly believe and remain very hopeful that both you and Alexis will find your Mr. Right someday and soon!
Hi, Lana. I am sorry that you are going through this. However, you are the only person who can decide what is best for you. If you are happier and more fulfilled now that you and MLA are apart, that seems to be a good indicator that you are on the right path. I am curious how your daughter is doing, though. Whatever happens, take care of yourself.
Sometimes…
People enter our lives for a Single Reason, or A Whole Season, A Single Moment, or A Lifetime…
When that Time ENDS, look at what you Learned & say okay what can I use, & what was Absolute Garbage…
Take the Good & Recycle for Another Day, While Throwing the BAD away to allow room for the Next Moment to Start!
If we Dwell on the BAD to long, the NEXT Moment May Stall & Not Come Along!
May your Next Moment Find you Soon…
Cherish the happy times and move forward. You will get your HEA. You just have to overcome a few bumps in the road first.
Much love to you, always remain true to yourself.